Sending Messages: What to Do

“Making a good impression is a must”

When you’re sending messages to women, you want to make sure that you have the best chance of getting her to message you back. In order to do this, you may have to change up the way you typically approach women on dating sites.

Make a Good First Impression

When you send your first message to a woman while on a dating site, you have to remember that the impression you make will decide whether or not she gives you the time of day. Women do not like to be catcalled and intimidated in persona and they don’t want to deal with those things online. When you approach a woman with your first message, you need to write it in a way that tells her that you are well-rounded, respectable, and most importantly, sane.

Before you send her a message, scan over her profile and try to pull out something that interest you that doesn’t deal with her body or how badly you want to have sex with her. For example, if she mentions that she’s an actress, ask her about her work. Don’t try to be a smart ass and ask her what movies she’s been in. That will just upset her. Instead, you can ask her if she’s ever done any indie films, commercials, or plays. Ask her what made her become an actress and any other positive and thought provoking questions about her passions. These are the type of questions that will get her talking. In other words, ask questions about what she likes in order to get her to respond to you.

Be Confident

“Your confidence may win her heart”

Far too often, men include in their messages phrases like, “I know I don’t stand a chance with you, but…” or “You’re too good for me, but…” These types of phrases do more harm than good because they make you seem insecure. Instead, when you are sending messages, you need to be completely self-confident. If you’re lacking self-confidence, you will need to fake it. Women want a man who knows what he wants and how to go about getting it. If she doesn’t get that vibe from you, she probably won’t message you back.

While you should definitely be confident, do not mistake confidence for arrogance. Do not tell a woman that she is going out with you (even jokingly) or assume that she will respond to your message. Even if she thinks you are the sexiest guy she’s ever seen, if you’re too arrogant, you will turn her off almost immediately. Women do not want men who put themselves on a pedestal.

It’s not difficult to send messages to women that will result in them replying back to you. All you have to do is be willing to read over their profile and engage in conversation. Show her that you are confident, but not in a way that intimidates her or makes her think that going out with you would be bad news. Be respectable, but avoid being dull. If a woman thinks you’re boring, she won’t even spare you a second glance.


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