The Three Things Your First Date IRL Must Have

Taking the leap from cyber love to in person, in your face loving can be difficult for a lot of women. If you want to set her at ease on your first date you have to be sensitive to this and pick the things that she wants to hear about at any given point to the date. Thankfully, there’s a way to do this that can be easily incorporated into any date night plan.

A Public Start

"Meeting in a public is refreshing"

“Meeting in a public is refreshing”

You should always be sure that the first part of your date with a woman you met online happens in a very public place. You can meet her in a park, in a restaurant with a lot of clients, or anywhere where large crowds gather and it would be difficult to murder someone. It’s not fair to men, but a lot of women are still afraid that a man they meet online is going to turn out to be a murderer or psychopath. The easiest way to lay these fears to rest is to just let her have half an hour or so with you in public to get a feel for you and realize that you’re not about to stab her in the face.

A Unique Middle

Every date needs something unique. When you’re trying to impress a woman that you met online, the trick is to sandwich this between things that she’ll find familiar and comforting. Once you’re sure that she’s gotten a chance to know the real you and isn’t afraid that you’re secretly a killer, you should move on to the “date” part of the date. Whether this means ice skating, a book signing by an author, or a pounding dance floor depends entirely on you and her. Treat this like any other first date and just find an activity that she’d like to do and do it together.

A Private End

"Ending a date should be sensuous"

“Ending a date should be sensuous”

At the end of the date, you and your online turned offline date will need some time together to connect. This means that you finish up your unique part of the date and retire somewhere cozier. A cafe that allows for intimacy is a good idea; it has to be private enough to reinforce the idea that she’s here, with you, in real life now. This little bit of time will give her lots of information about what it’s like to be out with you in public. Take things slow and don’t push for too much on your first date, though you should respond to signals as they’re given. Just give her a chance to realize that that great guy she met online is also great in person. You need to change the way she thinks of you from “online man” to just “man”, and that can take a lot of personal time.

Perfecting this first date sandwich will help you keep that online chemistry going between you once you’ve moved the relationship into the real world. Be sure to give the first stage of the plan plenty of time to kick in, and linger over the later if you can. You don’t want to spoil the date by dragging it out, but even if she doesn’t consciously realize it you will be putting her fears to rest.


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